Better than a book club!

If you are done with your book club – and I certainly hope you are, I highly recommend the Women’s Mindful Sexuality Meetup happening tomorrow in NY. It is led by one of the most fun, fresh and fab person I have met, Rainbow Geffner. She is a certified Slow Sex Coach, so do not expect chaotic, obscene or superficial conversations here but rather the sacred space that Sex deserves.

Women’s Sexuality Alive

What’s great about your sex? What’s missing? What’s that secret desire you haven’t told anyone about? Or that sultry side you keep tucked away in your closet? Sex is the gateway to how we express ourselves in the world and yet there are few opportunities for women to talk about that part of who we are. We’re hungry for more! Hungry for more intimacy, hungry for more expression and hungry for more pleasure.  Join us for a night where we put the spotlight on our sex. Come to discover something new about yourself and leave with a little more turn-on and excitement about your life.

Funny how we make time for the gym, shopping, nails salon in order to look our best, in order to feel/be beautiul, in order to attract a partner, in order to make love, in order to share an orgasm… how about making time directly for your sexuality !

Sorry Gentlemen, this one is a Women’s oly but I know there has been Mindful Sexuality Meetup where both gender could meet.

THIS IS A WOMEN ONLY EVENT. $10 suggested donation
Thursday, August 18, 2011, 8:00 PM
Reflections Yoga 250 W 49th St. 2nd Floor, New York, NY (map)

Hope to see you there mes Cheries!


I Love You

To say “I love you” one must first be able to say the “I.”
Ayn Rand

How to build a long lasting relationship:

1. Cut on dotted line.
2. Rotate 180 degrees.


Salud, Amore & Pesetas!

“I drink champagne when I’m happy and when I’m sad. Sometimes I drink it when I’m alone. When I have company I consider it obligatory. I trifle with it if I’m not hungry and drink it when I am. Otherwise I never touch it – unless I’m thirsty.”
Madame Lilli Bollinger

The Nature of Fire

Angels are Overrated

I don’t want to make love to an Angel. 

I don’t want someone who’s perfect beyond belief. Unblemished in any way. Idealized within an inch of his life. 

I know that’s what love songs and the television shows and the movies and the romance novels tell me to want. They sell perfection. They tout variations of an airbrushed, asexual ideal as the sexiest thing on earth. 

God, that’s boring.  [...]”

Extract from The Nature of Fire

Mes Cheris, please join me in welcoming another women who found and embraced her inner French-ness. Though actually a New Yorker through and through, Stacy China epitomizes the very qualities we hold dear and define as intrinsically and exquisitely French. What qualities are those you wonder? Well let me tell you a few words about this special woman before we turn to her and listen to what she has to say.

Stacy started out her career as a newswriter – nothing is taboo from politics to sports but it is what she does in her spare time that really distinguishes Stacy. A sensualist by choice and action she is an autodidact in all matters relating to coffee, tea, chocolate and fine lingerie. She has travelled the world, is an avid reader… and writer. She is the author of some romantic and some very “osé” essays in The Nature of Fire … so let’s hear from Stacy herself:

SIF: What do you do and how did you end up doing it?

I bring different experiences to people. Sometimes this occurs through my writing, sometimes through my speaking. Sometimes it happens when I stop speaking and just participate silently. As a child, I wanted to be a newspaper columnist — Jimmy Breslin at the New York Daily News was my role model. I liked him best because when you finished reading one of his columns, you felt something. Anger, sadness, a sense of justice being (or not being) served…but you felt something. I knew it was different from a straight news story. Unwittingly, I’ve brought this desire into my professional and personal life, it seems. Although I can write them very well, I don’t do well as the straight news story. I’m the one who wants to make you feel.

SIF: Where do you get your inspiration?

From books, art, architecture, music, fine foods (coffee, tea, and chocolate being my favorites), football, travel, film, and haute couture. And really interesting people.

SIF: What does your typical week look like?

Lots of yoga (at least six classes per week), lots of reading, taking time to sample a new coffee or pastry at a place I’ve never been to before, an inordinate amount of thinking (probably to make up for all the time I can’t think during yoga), some writing.

SIF: What (or who) would you like to be/do when you “grow up”?

I’m starting to realize that I’m already grown up — shocking! So all I can strive for is to be a clearer, more distilled version of myself. Think espresso.

SIF: Do you have something new in store for us?

Yes…but I can’t talk about it yet. It’ll be wily and feminine, though. And lots of fun.

SIF: Is there something else you would like to tell the SIF readers?

Yes, lovelies — be yourselves! ALL of yourselves. Don’t bother to categorize and compartmentalize your physical self from your cerebral self from your emotional self from your spiritual self…it’s all connected. It’s all you. Encourage them to all get along. Listen when one of them objects to whatever you’re doing — she’s likely doing so for a good reason. The boldest thing we can do is live as holistic creatures. Be bold.

Chers Frenchies – I invite you to read Stacy’s book, The Nature of Fire, a series of 19 essays that delve into issues of “sacred satisfaction”… I hope that aroused your interest already…

A bientot mes cheris, enjoy vos grandes vacances.

~ Shéhérazade

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Irish Prayer

May those who love us love us,
and those who do not love us,
may God turn their hearts,
and if He cannot turn their hearts
may He turn their ankles
that we may know them by their limping.
~Irish Prayer

I better walk straight ;)

Photo Jean Francois Jonvelle

Baby Panther: #3 the Catch

Alors Voila mes cheris!

A few weeks have gone by and the story with my younger paramour is still going on…  I can’t predict for how long but that is really not what I’m after. Indeed after my last long relationship, my focus has certainly shifted.

I erased “Ne me quitte pas” by Jacques Brel from my playlist and am singing “Non je ne regrette rien” d’Edith Piaf in my shower!

Rather than the length of a story, I am more interested in the depth and the width of it.

And depth and width it has! Intense love declarations, romantic encounters and action galore. I have followed his whimsical suggestions with delight and have tried new things such as… mais pas maintenant! Maybe in my next post, si vous etes sages!

Hence it is quite exciting and rewarding and the financial gurus out there know that with risks come (generally) rewards. In my case, taking the risk to be with someone younger challenges my preconceived notion about what I was looking for from love.

Bien sur you can count on She to ask the right questions: “Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart. », so enough said did he or didn’t he catch it ?

Maybe the butterflies in your stomach when the phone rings and his name appears on your phone. Or when you start to miss his voice, his smell or his skin.

Anyway my frenchies, you’ve been caught the minute you feel more alive and want to wear something lacy on Friday night!

But Babypanther is not the domestic kind so let’s monitor this one closely to see if the man can tame the kitten.

In Hold That Tiger, Mabel Stark, a renowned tiger trainer of the 1920s who was referred to as the world’s first woman tiger trainer/tamer writes:

The chute door opens as I crack my whip and shout, ‘Let them come,’ Out slink the striped cats, snarling and roaring, leaping at each other or at me. It’s a matchless thrill, and life without it is not worth while to me.”

~baby panther

What would Martha Stewart do?

Marrying a man is like buying something you’ve been admiring for a long time in a shop window.  You may love it when you get it home, but it doesn’t always go with everything else in the house.  ~Jean Kerr


Lover Undercover

I don’t need anything more than I got
I’ll make it simple when others may not

Whenever you need some company
Some love of a different kind
Come to your lover, undercover
And let me ease your mind

Whenever your heart beats heavy
And worry has got you down
Come to your lover, undercover
And I will turn your mood around

Why you wanna leave
When it’s so easy just to stay?
Lying wrapped up in my arms
Until the break of day

Why you wanna leave
When it’s so easy just to stay?
Lying wrapped up in my arms
Until the break of day

Whenever you need a soft touch
Know my demands are small
Make me a lover, undercover
Or don’t ever love me at all

by Melody Gardot